Assuming

Wenaaaass Hi ya!!

I’m back. Yes I know that I said I was gonna be more constant but shit happens. So lets move on.

Today I wanna talk about some thing that happens to people a lot lately.

I’m talking about assuming things.

Let’s say you hear a story and you don’t get all the details. What do most people do? Assume something.

Is that the right thing to do? NO!!

Cause when you assume something it may not be the truth. You may judge people wrong and that is not fair.

What is fair?

Asking what happen, so you know from them what happen.

It is bad when the media (radio, news papers, TV and internet) do this. Cause the ruin your reputation without asking what happen so the get the hole news. And most people believe blindly what the media says.

But what is the saddest is when the people around you and those who should know you better assume, judge and believe rumors about you.

That is the most heart breaking thing ever. Cause you expect them to support you in hard moments. But they choose to let you down even they should be your witness that you are not what rumors say about you. They should know you better then what other say about you.

Let me try to put this in A case and 2 outcomes

Case: A marriage altercation and the woman wants divorce and say that the man held her hostage and abused her. But nobody has been harmed actually.

Outcome 1: Assuming

You hear that and say yes he is an abusive man and hit her that is why she wants divorce. That man is seen as a dangerous person and the woman is the poor victim. And you don’t know anything more. Just what you assumed.

Outcome 2: Asking

They ask what happen and you get both sides of the story with details. And realize the truth about what happen.

What really happened!!

He was never home so she felt alone and started getting attracted to other people. He felt like he was loosing his family and wanted to talk to her but she did not want to talk anymore cause she thinks it is waist of time talking about the same thing they have been talking about for the last year. And did not want him to convince her of trying again for nothing. So she starts walking away and he grabs her by the hand and makes her go to the room so they can talk where nobody can disturb them. And maybe the will make love after the make up there minds. But things went wrong and her husband starts acting like a paranoid freak that will not let her out of the room till they talk it out. So she feels “afraid” now. And does not what to see him again cause she sees that crazy look in his face. But he did not harm her in any way. He did not get aggressive or insulted her.

What a drama for nothing!!

Maybe yes he had lost his mind there. Who would not if you see what you worked so hard for get flushed down the drain?

His beautiful wife, his kids, house, car and the dog.

So now! What is more satisfactory?

To know the truth or assuming something and really not knowing anything?

You may sound like you are nosey. But if that person wants to tell what happened pleas DO NOT ASUME! It is not fair for none of the implicated.

So people ask. Asking makes you “wiser”. And it will not hurt to know the truth.