Lair, Lair your pants are gonna set on fire

Since I can remember I can see people trying to use others. 

And using has 2 sides.

1 when you ask for help and this person accepts to help you

or

2 not telling that person that you want something from them and lie and manipulate to get it.

Case: You want the sex but not a relationship.

Example 1: you say the truth and get yourself a nice and sexy friend with benefit.

  Or

Example 2: you run after some random person and tell them that you love them and make them love/like you to get the sex you wanted. And then run when things get serious in that relationship.

Why do you prefer to lie people? Don’t you think someone may find out? Wouldn’t that be more trouble?

I don’t get it! 

I think lying takes to much time and effort. In that kind of stuff I’m really lazy. I don’t like waist time in doing much effort tin things that could be easier. I’ll rather sew by hand and not do such useless tasks.

Some prefer to say the truth and get a straight on and then try someone else. You never know. You may get a yes. Cause after they get you lying the question is: what now?

People will not trust you ever again. Having trust of the people around you is one of the most important things in life.

Why risk so much lying? 

Maybe you don’t care now. But some day you will. Even if it is on the day that you are dying you will and it will be late. 

If you are not worried about the people around you, what are you worried about? 

Not about what they may say. But about how the feel having you around.

Some people lie to get peoples acceptance. But doesn’t it cause the opposite?  And more if you did hurt someone with your lies.

Isn’t Life about the people that want to have you in there lives? 

Sometimes when you say the truth others may not like what you are saying or who you are but they would be in your life cause you are real. You are not faking anything and the know what to expect of you. Someone that cares about you (the real you) will love and accept you even if they don’t like you.

So why lie?

 If you are a”monster” show your true colors and then try to “fix” yourself. (Change what is not acceptable) cause being a douche bag is not acceptable at all.

Stop wasting your and other persons time and on acting stupid.

I Piece of Art

Hi there welcome to my world again,It is time to let you know more about me again. And this time I’m gonna talk about one of my biggest works ever.
I hope you like it and learn something of it.

I’ve been working  on It since I can remember. Made It perfect to my view. Then nature and technology conspired against my beautiful creation and showed me an other face of It.

I kept it hidden to the world. I thought it was horrible and didn’t want It to be exposed.

I struggled with the thought of it. Fought to fix it in my head. I was sad, bitter and lost, cried about all my work that was lost. Nothing could be done. My career was gone through the drain.

Then one day I woke up and gave up on fighting against the flow. I was tired and did not give a damn anymore bout what others would think.

And there It was. Instead of a fine piece it became a imposing and marvels concept. 

Despite it could not fit the environment it complimented itself and became some kind of success.

That creation is ME!!

I’m a living piece of art that I created through the years. I had obstacles and to much trouble but after all I manage to survive.

After so much time of trying to maintain my weight and a perfect body shape, even skin tone and signature hair, pretty and scare less face. Life hit me where it hurt the most. I was diagnosed with a high stage of endometriosis. Making my dream more difficult. And then when going through the hell of hormone treatments that had horrible side effects. And one of them was gaining weight in no time. I gained 20 kilos in 2 months. So my body, my piece of art was mar, marked with horrible stretch marks and acne scars on my face.

After grieving about it and trying in so many ways to fix it. I was told that I have hypothyroidism. I get thicker even with a glass of water.

So now  what do I do with this broken sculpture? So I’m a good crafter and I made It a new piece and self-sustaining.  So I started plus size modeling. After a month of starting I started to gain back my confidence. 

 
After that I graduated of Silhouette Plus summer edition 2012 I started to craft myself again.  A new me with the remains of the old me and the new me that had burst out in the making of my new creation. 

And It was perfect!! Nice curvy shape, soft skin like ever, natural hair, unique style, colorful personality and a cute face. But keeping some of the most important attributes of myself ; Curiosity and that inner nerd that will learn anything that gets my attention. With a little hippie do and always joking.

So there I was daughter of the Goddess Venus.

The new and beautiful me. Highly skilled with much more to offer then before. And not really afraid to lose anything anymore.

I hope you liked this post and I would be some kind if inspiration to someone some day.

!!Pictures in black are not form modeling classes. But a from private photo shoot !!

YOLO

Cool things that can ruin your life

A few days ago I was watching some clips on a much known net work that we all use every day and I was like :-O mouth wide open. Seeing so many girls doing nasty things and being filmed.

Ok before all nasty for me is not a “bad” thing. Depending on what your doing it can be amusing or interesting.

But please!!! Get filmed? They will have poof of what you did. You can not deny that you this in order to defend your self and your pride.

Back to the point. They where twerking barely naked or with there underwear showing on a stage.

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Twerking is a dance move that involves a person shaking their upper hips and lower hips in an up and down bouncing motion, causing them to shake, 'wobble' and 'jiggle’. To "twerk" means to "dance in a sexually suggestive fashion by twisting the hips."

Really? On a stage?

Ahh please!! Everybody is seeing you. And don’t forget filming and posting you on the internet. What are you getting for doing that? Ow a price? Are you all gonna get that Price? Ow only one. So why are you acting like a bitch in public and not getting plaid for it?

Don’t misunderstand me if you are gonna do something dirty that may ruin your life in public, you better make it worth it!!

Understand this. We all may get a little dirty while dancing, but not like that. And the Caribbean people can understand this very well.

Some people let situations, music and alcohol drag them to doing really crazy. That kind of things should be done in private. If your partner films you or take pictures that should stay Private.  And private is only those that where busy in the act. Not you and the entire club. Ow and don’t forget all world wide internet users.

I know I know. It looks fun and maybe is fun but think before you do things like that. Those things may mark your life FOR EVER.

I know about that. But no I did not do that in public I just trusted the wrong person but that is an other post. :D

Things like getting really drunk or high. I know you’re just having fun and getting rid of the stress. But abusing of any substance may cause you to black out. Think, if you black out and don’t remember anything, you where no longer in control of your acts and things could have happen.

I don’t know you but I am really afraid of loosing control. I would be really ashamed if I did something stupid and not knowing it.

I’m not judging anyone. I’m just telling you to watch out what you do, how and where you do it. I’m not telling you not to do them and have “fun”. But just be responsible about your acts. And that means to not put yourself in danger

I hate you

I hate you, you hear of them say.

Huh me? Why?

Some may not even know why they say that. Or they have some strange reason.

Do you know what HATE means?

It means that:

• ·         You wanna see this person fail
• ·         You don’t wish any good to them
• ·         You wanna harm them
• ·         Or wanna see them dead and you will celebrate of joy with anything bad that happens to them.

Why may the hate you?

Pffff it could be anything and some times they may have the most stupid reasons. Like hating you cause you are talented.

Instead of researching for there own talent they waist there time hating you.

Too much waist of energy.

Hating you cause you have a nicer hair.

Girl you know how much it takes to wash and keep this Afro neat??

I would not mind to give tips of how I maintain my hair. But pleas ask. I can’t read it of your forehead.  Ask if you wanna know.

And again communication lack. Instead of hating and envying. Ask damn it!! So you can achieve the same as that other person. A GOOD person will at least give some tip or advice.

Hating is a negative feeling like others.

But I find it so confusing. It asks so much energy of you. You waist so much time and energy instead of using it for trying to get as far of like that person. The human mind is so complex. We tend to choose what looks easier but sometimes it ends up being more difficult and useless. Why don’t we stop acting stupid and think.

I said WE before because maybe I did envy someone some time. But how I have been raised makes me stop and think. And I learned not to look up to anyone. That sounds weird but I have always been like that. Cause you see something so beautiful that you (I) stop and say: Hold it there must be something rotten behind this.

It may not be that bad but it will take all the magic away. And if there is no magic, why not make it my own way?

So instead of hating/envying I’ll search how I can get what I want or something Better. So I don’t have to envy none cause I got my own way to get what I want and the way I want it. 

Story

One time at school I heard some girls talking about hating some other. And I confronted them asking if they knew what hating an other person was. When I exposed my theory they where looking like now they would have to think before they would talk. Cause they where confusing Not Liking and hating. That is an “innocent” mistake that some may do.

Why not analyze what we feel and then searching for the right words for it.

 A shout out to all Haters. Hahaha joke. I did not mean to insult anyone and the inteligens 

A shout out To my people in Curacao. Tur kos ta bon si Shonan? Sigi lesa mi Blog i por comment tambe. Basha bo comment sin berguensa. Korda keda ku respet si

Danki :D

Wasting time on Judging

This started when my mom glass beads bracelet broke at the bus stop and we started picking them up. And when we came home my mom told me that the people around where looking at us like if we where crazy for picking them up. And I was like wtf? That people don’t know shit. That bracelet had unique beads in it. Some of them where even hand made glass beads and could cost 2 dollars each. Me leave what on the floor?

That is like leaving and art piece of art in the garbage.

As crafter I know what it is to see something beautiful in that others don’t see anything in it.

So people think that that bracelet was just bijoutery and did not have any value for them. But for my mom it did.  Cause she bought one every time she had the money to do so and loved every bead of it. Cause some of them where UNIQUE or hand made. So for her I had an added value.

So when you see something that may not be important to you respect it because it could mean the world to an other.Some things that apparently don’t mean much may not always have the same value to you that it does to an other.

Not knowing values or not respecting them for and other gets us stuck again with the communication. Instead of supposing or judging, why not asking why?

Think how many problems could had been solved or prevented if someone would have asked why and a reasonable answer would have been given. There where be less misunderstandings.

It sounds easy but it is apparently not. For some people it is better to think you are crazy or stupid then to ask: madam why are you picking them up? The fell already on the floor. (why and/or what are you doing)

Why? Isn’t it better or easier to ask? I mean you can not as every one but you can ask the closer ones. Like your family of someone you know that may be doing something that for you would look stupid.

I it better supposing something and then have to say sorry cause you where wrong? 

Isn’t there an other way to do things?

Wouldn’t it hurt less or make you less angry? 

But noooooo you have to keep quiet, doubt and think trash!! You have to let it work on your nerves for nothing!  Aggg pleas.

I know it can be difficult to beat that bad habit. But isn’t it wasting your time making your time more difficult to solve?

Think about it and stop wasting time. Ask!  :D

Some of The Person behind the random thoughts

Hi there

Today I’m going to tell who I am.

Yep “should” had done it before. But nope did not want to draw all attention from what I have to say with whom I am and other facts about me. But I decided to share some of my life that may help or make people more aware of some things.

OK let’s go to the point.

My name is Zunette . But known as Susy. Born in the 84. I’m from Curacao. Grew till my 6 in on a see side neighborhood then moved with my parents to a neighborhood on a mountain side till now. Yep I’m still live with my parents.

First child of my mother. Second of my father. I have a little brother. He is 3 years younger from same mother and father.

I’m a naturally curious, creative, cute and some times raw. I’m really playful and really serious when I have to.  I can switch from A to Z if it is required. Always been a thinker.

Did administration and management at school.

Love learning new things, read books and online. I’m a certified crafter. I love it and would not want to live without it. Creating new nice things is what I love about it.

I like singing, dancing, painting and makeup. I do belly dancing (tribal and cabaret), ballet, contemporary dance and dubstep. No never followed any type of classes. When I do dance I dance my soul out.

I write poetry and like cooking and improvising in it. I’m very talkative but most of the time I’m quiet cause I’m analyzing something or situation around me. I’m a vegetarian from soul.

I’m much of a caged free spirit. (“Prisoner “of my situation)

Why I made this blog?

First I started it because I’m use to helping people with my advice and like to talk about important topics of life and culture.

So I decided to do it openly. I’m not pretending to know it all cause I don’t. But it is better to get more opinions about something that just getting 1 that may not be helping you have different point of view. And second it started trying to keep myself busy. I will explain why and details about it in my next post about me.

I just want to make these thoughts more useful. Keeping them to myself or only to a few is selfish. And I’m not.

http://www.curacao.com Link to the site of my beautiful native Island.

 

I hope you liked this post. Till next week 

Yes I’m a daddy

Awe…. So cute!! A father  playing with his child. I really admire that. That really warms my heart.

But lets go to the point.

What I don’t  admire of justify is when they fill there mouths saying that they are fathers  and they don’t act like one.

• ·         They don worry/care about there child health
• ·         The don’t talk or have any communication with there child
• ·         Even if the have only one or two kids the don’t remember there birthday and/or age
• ·         They don care about there feeding or education
• ·         They never participate in any of there activities

Pleas is this so difficult?

Why on earth do you go out and have sex without any protection, if you are not able to be responsible  or give a child some attention. Cause we all know that the outcome of unprotected sex is pregnancy or an STD.

Why put a life on earth when you don’t want to make it as happy as possible? And I say want cause you can be short on money but Love and Care are Free.

Is that so difficult? No right?

If you can’t pleas don’t have kids. Not even to make your family get bigger or what so ever. Don’t do it.

You are going to responsible for one more unhappy being walking around with all the risks that they may become if the get frustrated enough.

I don’t have children myself but my heart, guts and conscience tell me that you only seek for an other life to come in to your journey of life  is to make it as happy as possible.

I can’t believe that there are so many people that have so much love to give and are some times unable to give it out like they would had want to (example love a child of there own). And other don’t bother loving there own blood.

People you don’t know what you are missing!!!

The love of a child to there parent/s is the most pure, beautiful  and biggest thing ever. The best thing that parent will ever get.

I can not understand why you could not care about your own Love bundle.  It only ask for love and gives it back.

What I can not either understand are parents that abuse and take out things on there child. You wanna take out your anger? Why abuse that poor kid? You are unhappy?Hit a wall it does not have feelings and will not hate you later. That wall will not feel rejected by the person that he/she loves most.

Fix it without getting your  kids mixed in. It is your problem not  theirs. Remember that your child did not choose to be in your life or even in this world.

You did!!

Don’t send them out to get a job so you could stop working or work less. There life was not there choice it was yours. Don’t break your kids dreams cause you did not get yours.

I think parenting is about giving the best to your offspring. Because you did not have education you should provide it to them.  It is about providing you child of things that are necessary that maybe you did not have. I'm not talking about only material goods. But about creating an well balanced emotional being.

So pleas love, help and care about your child. Cause you will receive it back from them.

The Friend zone

Welcome to the "friend zone" where you will always keep loving her/him for ever end never getting that kind of love back.

Let me start by saying to stop being stupid!! That damn thing called Friend zone does not exist.

There are 2 things: friends or not friends.

In all that you get different section.  

Friends:

. Friends

. Just friends

. Best friends

. Party friends

. Friends with benefits etc.

Not friends:

. Someone you know

. Enemy/ someone you hate etc.

People have to understand 1 thing. They like you or the don’t. If they don’t, what ever!! There are more human on this would walking around looking for some one to love.

But try to get to know if it is because you are friends or it is something of your personality.

If it is your personality, Game over and search for an other playmate for your game.

If the friendship is the reason, then try to know if this person is able to divert from her/his position and be able to be in a relationship with you.

Because sometimes we are secretly attracted to a friend and we would not say it. No mater what ‘cause you like you are as friends.

 Let’s be real, sometimes people end up banging someone you would ever think about.  And that is because this person showed you something you would not think they would or could do.

So you are so silly and laid back that you use the damn thing called “friend zone” as an excuse.

Stop that!! I’m telling you stop that!! Stop making a fool of yourself cause most of us are not. And maybe you are in that group.

If this person likes you and may be able (try) to have a relationship with you, you should think about it. Do you want to keep a friend or you really want this affair?

If you prefer to stay as you are now that is called KEEPING A FRIEND NOT FRIEND ZONING. Some times it is better that way.

Because in this world we have some type of people that are more playful then elves and love to play around and break hearts.

So you better safe then sorry. Some people just wanna have fun and you just want to have love.  And getting hurt is not the goal.

 But if it may be safe to start a new chapter with some one in your life, you better give it a try. You never know!!

I wanna ad to this that I’m not the best in love business and not a professional. But I just was giving my opinion about it. Remember  this is just a random though. 

Regards to all those that believe in that lie called the Friend zone.

The miserable

Some times every thing goes wrong. 

Not some times, when it goes wrong all the time!!

You feel like you wanna die and start all over, to see if there can be a change for you.

Well to die is not an option. 

So life is a B. So you have to F... the hell out of her. Because a happy B… make your life easy.

I know you that  some times you feel like not having enough to pound her with.  That means that you have to learn an other way to make her walk every day with a big smile and giving you “what you want”.

We all make plans in this life .and for some damn reason you find yourself 10 years away and you don’t understand when it went wrong. And you don’t have that time to go back and fix it.  So now you are doomed !!

Nope you are not completely doomed. The science of live is  that if you fail, try to have a plan B. You could  go through all plans that you could and failed? F.... it and get something else to put your time in to.

Don’t worry if you feel discouraged. That is normal and you have the right to. But don’t stay in that state for long cause you are gonna waist more time. And you already lost  a lot. 

So don’t waist time and get a new plan/project.

And always make small steps. No mater how long it takes. But it is a way to avoid domino effect or big fails. Cause you could see it coming before it hits you again.

So the thing is: 

Intro to My blog

Hi,

I know that I may say some things that may not be the most positive things ever and I may get a lot of hating for it (this is the internet). But I’m not here to give any self-help discourse. And I’ll take some things that have been on my mind so long.  I’m just bringing the reality forward. At least mine. I don't know yours. 

But I've been noticing that there are more persons having same problems

So if it helps you in something go on and use it.